I was so happy to read this newlywed bride's blog post about a very cute story from when Harry and I were newlyweds. Here's wishing much joy to this sweet couple.

http://goo.gl/2acLh

On Memorial Day, I always remember how cute my Harry was in his Army uniform.

Dear Cutie,

My boyfriend of the past five years is fifty years old and yet still grieves for his parents, who passed away twenty years ago. It's quite heart wrenching to me that his reason for not wanting to have kids is
that the loss of his parents is so great that he says he wishes he were never born. It frustrates me to constantly hear him talk about his parents as if they passed away only yesterday--then I feel bad for
feeling that way. I wish I could make it less painful for him, but I can't. Sometimes I think he should see a therapist for this complicated grief, but I know that no therapist in the world can bring
back his parents.

Cutie, how did you deal with the death of your children and then Harry's passing? I'm impressed by your positivity and adaptiveness.

signed,

Hurting for Him

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Dear Hurting,

This happened twenty years ago? It is not normal to still feel so devastated.

The way to deal with grief is to deal with it. It will not just go away. Your boyfriend must deal with his grief, and learn to let it go. Something has kept him from going through this natural process, and like a clogged pipe, he clearly needs some help to get things moving again.

It was incredibly difficult to lose my children and husband. But I wanted to go on living and I knew they would have wanted me to do so. So even when I was hurting, I forced myself get up, put my best face on, and live. It was hard, but it became easier with time. This is how grief works.

I am sure that your boyfriend's parents would be very sorry to know that he is not living his life to the fullest. But, it is not up to you to change how he feels. He has to make that decision for himself. If you love him, I would encourage him to get some help. A therapist cannot bring his parents back, but a good one can help him work through his pain and move on.

Good luck to you both.

Love,
Cutie

What a sweet pup this was. They say people get to look like their pets. Somehow I never noticed that we had the same hairdo!