Ask Grandma Anything: Four Years of Marriage, Three Acts of Love

Dear Cutie,

I have been married for four years, had sex three times, and I am just at the breaking point, My husband said that he had a medical problem about three years ago, but has done nothing about it. Don’t you think that if it really mattered to him, he would have taken care of it by now?

Signed,
Unfulfilled

Dear Unfulfilled,

You should talk to his doctor, together.

If he is not satisfying you, you could get your marriage annulled. Or this could be the beginning of a conversation. Ask him what is wrong and don’t take excuses for an answer. Also, tell him that there is not enough intimacy in the relationship to keep you going.

This is a difficult situation, but you shouldn’t have to settle. You deserve to feel fulfilled in all ways, including sexually. By allowing him to continue this way, you are showing him that you tolerate this lifestyle, when in fact you may not be willing to do so. Please do not wait passively, but act to find out if there is a real marriage worth saving in your home. Good luck to you.

Love,
Cutie

Dear Cutie,

I have been married for four years, had sex three times, and I am just at the breaking point, My husband said that he had a medical problem about three years ago, but has done nothing about it. Don’t you think that if it really mattered to him, he would have taken care of it by now?

Signed,
Unfulfilled

Dear Unfulfilled,

You should talk to his doctor, together.

If he is not satisfying you, you could get your marriage annulled. Or this could be the beginning of a conversation. Ask him what is wrong and don’t take excuses for an answer. Also, tell him that there is not enough intimacy in the relationship to keep you going.

This is a difficult situation, but you shouldn’t have to settle. You deserve to feel fulfilled in all ways, including sexually. By allowing him to continue this way, you are showing him that you tolerate this lifestyle, when in fact you may not be willing to do so. Please do not wait passively, but act to find out if there is a real marriage worth saving in your home. Good luck to you.

Love,
Cutie