Ask Grandma Anything: Are We Too Young?

Air Mail Letters 3

Air Mail Letters 3
Dear Cutie,

I am a 18 and have been in a relationship going on 5yrs now with my boyfriend who is three years older than I am. I am happy and very much in love with him.

The only problem that we seems to get a lot of the time is that we are to young for our love to be as serious as it is. But the way that I look at the situation is that there are two people in love who think it is possible to grow together.

I am about to go to college and he has just begun his career in the military, but I feel as if it is possible despite what other may perceive.

I guess my question is that is it really that ridiculous to want to be in a long term relationship even if we are young? What advice would you give to a young couple?

Sincerely,

Just Wanna Believe

Dear Just Wanna Believe, 

Of course it is not ridiculous to want to form a long term relationship as a young person. You sound like a very serious young lady and there is nothing wrong with the dream you have.

However it is not your youth that is going to make this relationship a challenge, but the fact that he will be so far away. Long distance relationships are simply difficult to maintain, and if you find that you are not able to keep yours alive, you should not blame yourself or stop looking for the love you seek in your life. 

You are both just getting started in your lives. And this is a chance for both of you to be independent and figure out what you are all about. You should cherish this opportunity. It is a wonderful time in your lives.

In a few years you may marry your boyfriend or you may both find that while you love each other you have grown apart. Neither one is the right answer unless it is the right answer for you. Be patient and know that I am wishing you all the best. 

Love,
Cutie 

Air Mail Letters 3
Dear Cutie,

I am a 18 and have been in a relationship going on 5yrs now with my boyfriend who is three years older than I am. I am happy and very much in love with him.

The only problem that we seems to get a lot of the time is that we are to young for our love to be as serious as it is. But the way that I look at the situation is that there are two people in love who think it is possible to grow together.

I am about to go to college and he has just begun his career in the military, but I feel as if it is possible despite what other may perceive.

I guess my question is that is it really that ridiculous to want to be in a long term relationship even if we are young? What advice would you give to a young couple?

Sincerely,

Just Wanna Believe

Dear Just Wanna Believe, 

Of course it is not ridiculous to want to form a long term relationship as a young person. You sound like a very serious young lady and there is nothing wrong with the dream you have.

However it is not your youth that is going to make this relationship a challenge, but the fact that he will be so far away. Long distance relationships are simply difficult to maintain, and if you find that you are not able to keep yours alive, you should not blame yourself or stop looking for the love you seek in your life. 

You are both just getting started in your lives. And this is a chance for both of you to be independent and figure out what you are all about. You should cherish this opportunity. It is a wonderful time in your lives.

In a few years you may marry your boyfriend or you may both find that while you love each other you have grown apart. Neither one is the right answer unless it is the right answer for you. Be patient and know that I am wishing you all the best. 

Love,
Cutie