Ask Grandma Anything: He Mocks Her Faith

Dear Cutie,

I am in a fairly new relationship. I am religious and he is not. He always says that he respects my choice, but I feel like he does not. He and his brother are always making jokes about my faith, and I do not think they realize how much it hurts me when they do so.

I have always told him that I understand and respect his opinion, and have even stuck up for him with my family, who is also religious. So I guess it just hurts a little that he allows his brother to make the jokes, and for him to make them too.

I just do not know what to do in this situation. I do not know how to tell him how I feel. Do you have any advice?

Signed,
Hurt

Dear Hurt, 

This comes down to an issue of respect. He does not have to believe in your religion, but he should respect your choice to believe what you believe. 

Let him know where you stand on the issue. Try writing him a letter or talking to him when you are not in the heat of the moment. That will show him that this is really having an effect on your life. 

You are right to be concerned and he will have to change his ways if he wants to be a more considerate partner and to keep you in his life. 

Good luck to you. 

Love,
Cutie

Dear Cutie,

I am in a fairly new relationship. I am religious and he is not. He always says that he respects my choice, but I feel like he does not. He and his brother are always making jokes about my faith, and I do not think they realize how much it hurts me when they do so.

I have always told him that I understand and respect his opinion, and have even stuck up for him with my family, who is also religious. So I guess it just hurts a little that he allows his brother to make the jokes, and for him to make them too.

I just do not know what to do in this situation. I do not know how to tell him how I feel. Do you have any advice?

Signed,
Hurt

Dear Hurt, 

This comes down to an issue of respect. He does not have to believe in your religion, but he should respect your choice to believe what you believe. 

Let him know where you stand on the issue. Try writing him a letter or talking to him when you are not in the heat of the moment. That will show him that this is really having an effect on your life. 

You are right to be concerned and he will have to change his ways if he wants to be a more considerate partner and to keep you in his life. 

Good luck to you. 

Love,
Cutie