Ask Grandma Anything: Thinking About Suicide

Dear Cutie,

I’m 15 years old.

I have a huge problem in my life. I’ve thought to kill myself many times. I have problems with my studies, weight, and much more. I’ve even cut myself. It made me feel better, but just for the day. The next day, all my pains come back. Now I’m scarred for life!

Cutie, should I kill myself? I mean, if I really am having so much trouble in my life? What do you think?

Signed,
Lost

Dear Lost,

Thank you so much for your message and for reaching out to me. I’m very sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. I do not know you very well, but I can tell that you are a good person who has a great deal to bring to this world.

You have already started doing the most important thing you can do for yourself and that is to ask for help. Let the people in your life know that you are hurting and that you could use some support. If it is too difficult to talk about what is wrong, sometimes it can be nice just to be around an understanding person. To watch a movie with them. Or just to cry.

Acceptance is one of the most healing things you can offer yourself and those around you. If there are people in your life who you have disappointed you, try to accept the situation. And look for other people who can give you the support you need.

You have a wonderful future ahead of you. I believe in you.

Love,
Cutie
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Ask Grandma Anything: He Mocks Her Faith

Dear Cutie,

I am in a fairly new relationship. I am religious and he is not. He always says that he respects my choice, but I feel like he does not. He and his brother are always making jokes about my faith, and I do not think they realize how much it hurts me when they do so.

I have always told him that I understand and respect his opinion, and have even stuck up for him with my family, who is also religious. So I guess it just hurts a little that he allows his brother to make the jokes, and for him to make them too.

I just do not know what to do in this situation. I do not know how to tell him how I feel. Do you have any advice?

Signed,
Hurt

Dear Hurt, 

This comes down to an issue of respect. He does not have to believe in your religion, but he should respect your choice to believe what you believe. 

Let him know where you stand on the issue. Try writing him a letter or talking to him when you are not in the heat of the moment. That will show him that this is really having an effect on your life. 

You are right to be concerned and he will have to change his ways if he wants to be a more considerate partner and to keep you in his life. 

Good luck to you. 

Love,
Cutie
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Ask Grandma Anything: He Bristles at Questions

Dear Cutie,

My question is that I am married for the second time and it’s a blended family. We have only been married for two years now and I love my husband very much. But he has been mentioning that he is not happy and he mentions the “d” word often. I use to react to it, but I stopped reacting to it because he said it all the time. How should I handle this situation?

Also, it seems if I don’t ask him too many questions in general, he is happier. He seems to get more angry when I ask lots of questions.

We also have separate checking accounts. What do you think about that? He pays most of the bills and I just handle my personal stuff along with my kids’ personal stuff and the groceries.

Signed,
On Eggshells

Dear Eggshells,

First of all, I don’t like the idea that he gets angry if you ask him too many questions. It is one thing to talk a subject to death, but it is entirely another to have an environment of open communication in a relationship. 

There is nothing wrong with separate checking accounts, except when the money situation transfers over to other aspects of the relationship. Just because one person pays the bills doesn’t mean that he or she should have more power in the relationship. Harry and I always treated money, whether he made it, or I made it, as if it were our money. For the family. I’m sure this attitude is possible with separate checking accounts, but it probably takes a little more consideration. 

Threatening divorce to make your spouse anxious and quiet seems like an unhealthy path. I would recommend that you find a way to speak honestly with your husband about what you both need. Sit down with a trained professional if it’s too difficult to do this when you are alone.

No one should feel like they are walking on egg shells. You are an independent, strong person and you deserve to be treated that way. It starts with yourself. 

Good luck to you. 

Love,
Cutie
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They Love Grandma on Yelp

Cutie's Review of the Day on Yelp

What a neat surprise for Grandma to find her inbox filled with compliments and friend requests from fellow Yelpers early on a Saturday morning. Why so popular? It seems her review of Philippe The Original was named Review of the Day for the whole Los Angeles review site! If you stay opinionated for 90-something years, it can happen to you, too.
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