Ask Grandma Anything: The Perils of People Pleasing

Hi Cutie,

I have been told that I’m a very sensitive person. How can I go about following my own dreams rather than constantly being a people pleaser? How do I deal with the bumps in the road along the way?

Signed,
Tender Blossom

Dear Tender Blossom,

Believe in yourself. You are not wrong. You may try to make other people happy, but at the end of the day you have to live with yourself.

It is impossible to make everyone happy all the time. You will have a better chance of thriving if you look at what you can do to be the best you. If you go down this road, you may find that you lose a few friends who preferred it when you put their needs above your own. And this may hurt, but when you respect yourself, you will attract positive people who will show you the same respect.

It is a difficult road, but it gets easier and it is worth it. Good luck to you, and follow your star.

love,
Cutie

Hi Cutie,

I have been told that I’m a very sensitive person. How can I go about following my own dreams rather than constantly being a people pleaser? How do I deal with the bumps in the road along the way?

Signed,
Tender Blossom

Dear Tender Blossom,

Believe in yourself. You are not wrong. You may try to make other people happy, but at the end of the day you have to live with yourself.

It is impossible to make everyone happy all the time. You will have a better chance of thriving if you look at what you can do to be the best you. If you go down this road, you may find that you lose a few friends who preferred it when you put their needs above your own. And this may hurt, but when you respect yourself, you will attract positive people who will show you the same respect.

It is a difficult road, but it gets easier and it is worth it. Good luck to you, and follow your star.

love,
Cutie