I have a question, but I’m not sure if you’ll be able to answer, as I’m sure you’re very busy. Your tales of love remind me of my own. I’m 7 years into a very happy marriage. We laugh everyday; people often think we’re on our first date! We are very lucky to have each other and couldn’t be happier.
My problem is that now that I have found my wonderful partner, I worry about losing him. I worry he might pass away and I won’t be able to cope. I know I should just make the most of the good times and not worry. Is it normal to think these thoughts, or am I just being morbid?
I really hope this doesn’t upset you, as it’s a very personal question. You are the only person I’ve ever mentioned this to, and I thought you might be able to advise me.
Thanks for your time, and thank you for all your wisdom and sharing. You are a real inspiration!
It is so nice to hear of your happiness. You are very fortunate to have found your partner. He sounds like a gem.
As for your concern about losing your partner, try not to be so hard on yourself. In my opinion, it is very normal to be worry about this, especially as times goes on. It shows how much you care and value the relationship.
Harry and I were together for so long that t was impossible for me to imagine what life would be like without him. So when this worry came along, I acknowledged it, while recognizing that there was really nothing I could do about the worry. Then I hugged Harry a little harder and inevitably went back to the business of everyday life.
I wish there were some magic words that I could tell you to make it easier now and in the future. The truth of it is that you take it as it comes. When Harry passed, my heart ached and I was mad that we had to be apart– even if I reminded myself that 98 years was a good run for him and that we were lucky to have 73 years together.
Here I am two years later and I am just as strong as ever. I think that our love and our relationship was such a solid foundation that it is somehow supporting me even after he has passed. I know that Harry still loves me, wherever he is. I miss him often, but I can remember him and cherish the memories.
I can only speak from my experience. My hope for you is that you are able to accept yourself now for having these concerns and that you continue to appreciate your beautiful relationship.
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