Ask Grandma Anything: She Won’t Commit

Hello Cutie,

I have a situation. I have been dating this woman for about six months; she is a wonderful a person and I can see myself being with her for the rest of my life. I’m 48 years old and she is 38, recently laid off from work and working part time. She isn’t sure about if she could see us together for the rest of our days. I know one of the problems is my stability, but I don’t know the other. I just found out she isn’t sure if she is attracted to me physically, but she is attracted to me mentally. Plus all of her ex-boyfriends want her back. I told her she needs to close the door on her past and move on. I treat her well and give the utmost respect and let her know how much she means to me.

The question I have is, should stay or should I just move on?  

Signed,
Perplexed

Dear Perplexed,

The question is where is she at. She better make up her mind about what she wants. If there are boyfriends in the past that she is considering, then drop her. If she is ready to commit herself to you, that’s another story. Her life is her own but she has got to make up her mind as to what she wants. If she is thinking “maybe this,” “maybe that,” that’s not good enough. You deserve to be with someone who knows what they want.

Good luck to you.

Love,
Cutie

Hello Cutie,

I have a situation. I have been dating this woman for about six months; she is a wonderful a person and I can see myself being with her for the rest of my life. I’m 48 years old and she is 38, recently laid off from work and working part time. She isn’t sure about if she could see us together for the rest of our days. I know one of the problems is my stability, but I don’t know the other. I just found out she isn’t sure if she is attracted to me physically, but she is attracted to me mentally. Plus all of her ex-boyfriends want her back. I told her she needs to close the door on her past and move on. I treat her well and give the utmost respect and let her know how much she means to me.

The question I have is, should stay or should I just move on?  

Signed,
Perplexed

Dear Perplexed,

The question is where is she at. She better make up her mind about what she wants. If there are boyfriends in the past that she is considering, then drop her. If she is ready to commit herself to you, that’s another story. Her life is her own but she has got to make up her mind as to what she wants. If she is thinking “maybe this,” “maybe that,” that’s not good enough. You deserve to be with someone who knows what they want.

Good luck to you.

Love,
Cutie