Dear Cutie,
I have been best friends with three girls for the past two years. If you’ve seen the “Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants” movies, it’s like that.
One of my friends had become distant, but only from me. She has this new boyfriend. She randomly accused me of trying to take him from her, and trying in the past. I’ve tried to explain to her on multiple occasions I would never do that. She shuts me out.
I logged onto Facebook recently only to discover that she deleted me after not talking to me for months. You could say it was like a slap in the face. I tried emailing her to work it out. In the long run she just wanted to hurt me, and admitted to it, because she doesn’t trust me.
I still don’t know what I did wrong. I went along with her ignoring me, then I tried to apologize. Nothing seems to work. I don’t want to fight back or lose her. What should I do?
Signed,
Totally Alone
Dear Totally Alone,
She is involved with her boyfriend and she has made her position clear. You have made efforts to improve the situation and talk about it, but she is not interested.
I think that you should stop reaching out to her. If she cannot show you respect, then she doesn’t deserve to be in your life. You are not desperate for friends. You may have a history with this woman, but that does not give her a pass to treat you this way.
There are wonderful people out there who are not interested in these games and they want to be your friend. I know this hurts now, but things will get better the less you are involved with this relationship.
Love,
Cutie
Dear Cutie,
I have been best friends with three girls for the past two years. If you’ve seen the “Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants” movies, it’s like that.
One of my friends had become distant, but only from me. She has this new boyfriend. She randomly accused me of trying to take him from her, and trying in the past. I’ve tried to explain to her on multiple occasions I would never do that. She shuts me out.
I logged onto Facebook recently only to discover that she deleted me after not talking to me for months. You could say it was like a slap in the face. I tried emailing her to work it out. In the long run she just wanted to hurt me, and admitted to it, because she doesn’t trust me.
I still don’t know what I did wrong. I went along with her ignoring me, then I tried to apologize. Nothing seems to work. I don’t want to fight back or lose her. What should I do?
Signed,
Totally Alone
Dear Totally Alone,
She is involved with her boyfriend and she has made her position clear. You have made efforts to improve the situation and talk about it, but she is not interested.
I think that you should stop reaching out to her. If she cannot show you respect, then she doesn’t deserve to be in your life. You are not desperate for friends. You may have a history with this woman, but that does not give her a pass to treat you this way.
There are wonderful people out there who are not interested in these games and they want to be your friend. I know this hurts now, but things will get better the less you are involved with this relationship.
Love,
Cutie