Ask Grandma Anything: Scared To Talk To Grandma

Dear Grandma Cutie,  

Growing up I’ve lived far away from my grandma, but there’s a certain issue — a big issue — that I really need to talk to her about. If I did, my dad is going to be very disappointed in me and if I didn’t that will lead to even worse consequences — I’m talking prison!
 
Please tell me what to do, even though I’m shy to ask grandma. Or should I do what every 14-year old teen does, sit down and watch the problem spin and wind it itself up.

Signed,
Feeling Alone

Dear Feeling Alone,

This sounds like a very serious situation. If you are worried about talking to your grandma, maybe you can talk to another adult in your life, like a family friend or a counselor at school. There are also telephone help lines where you can ask for help without identifying yourself.

Your instincts are probably right. And it is a good idea to get help when you feel you need it. 

There is a time and a place for sitting back and letting a situation work itself out. But usually we know when it is time to ask someone older and wiser for their perspective. I know you will do the right thing, and that your problem will get smaller when you share it.

Good luck to you. 

Love,
Cutie

Dear Grandma Cutie,  

Growing up I’ve lived far away from my grandma, but there’s a certain issue — a big issue — that I really need to talk to her about. If I did, my dad is going to be very disappointed in me and if I didn’t that will lead to even worse consequences — I’m talking prison!
 
Please tell me what to do, even though I’m shy to ask grandma. Or should I do what every 14-year old teen does, sit down and watch the problem spin and wind it itself up.

Signed,
Feeling Alone

Dear Feeling Alone,

This sounds like a very serious situation. If you are worried about talking to your grandma, maybe you can talk to another adult in your life, like a family friend or a counselor at school. There are also telephone help lines where you can ask for help without identifying yourself.

Your instincts are probably right. And it is a good idea to get help when you feel you need it. 

There is a time and a place for sitting back and letting a situation work itself out. But usually we know when it is time to ask someone older and wiser for their perspective. I know you will do the right thing, and that your problem will get smaller when you share it.

Good luck to you. 

Love,
Cutie